Thoughts Outside the Box: Alone vs Lonely...

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Alone vs Lonely...

To be alone is not the same as to be lonely. I can't believe how long it's taken me to realize this simple truth, when in fact I've lived it's wisdom most of my life... I have always been a loner, even in the midst of people, guarding and insulating the "real me" behind a facade of humor and extroversion. To know the real me is a feat of gargantuan porportion, that so few have accomplished that I can number them on one hand, for in my innermost being I am a social recluse, while appearing to be socially extroverted. To penetrate that veneer takes time and trust, and all to few have had enough of the one to earn the other, and so I live alone in my mind, content in the knowledge that I am secure in my ability to fool others...

Yet am I not fooling myself, for if I claim to be one way yet live another, who am I really? What is truth and what is facade? Perhaps to live long enough contrary to the true me is, at some point, to begin to own the contridiction as truth...

Still, I've learned it is better to be alone than to be with another and feel lonely. To desire to share one's life, one's most personal inner self with another, one's hopes and dreams and deepest longings, and discover that depth is missing in the relationship leaves you lonely... and depressed... and desiring more. It is totally possible to be with others and be completely lonely. And it's just as possible to be completely alone and not be lonely at all...

I should add that while often in my later life I find myself "completely" alone I really am not alone at all. I am so grateful for my relationship with Jesus Christ, for God's grace to allow me to be in community with Him at any given moment, that loneliness is not an option. Sure, I occassionally allow my focus to be on myself and feel sorry for myself for past relational failings, but He is always there to remind me that no matter how bad I screw up He is waiting to love and forgive me... Perhaps someday He'll drop a mate into my life that has the same grace and forgiveness and I can taste a bit of Heaven here on earth before my days are done... And Hope lives on...

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Personality Profiling...

Carl Jung developed the theory that everyone has their own distinctive psychological type which makes up their personality type. He developed sixteen different personality types, later further developed by Katherine Briggs and Isabel Briggs Meyers. There are four major catagories, and two sub catagories within each one. Every one falls into one of the sixteen types developed.

Personality typing is incredibly helpful in areas of growth and self-development. It also helps us understand those personality types we are best compatible with...

The four catagories are Sensing (S) or Intuition (N), Thinking (T) or Feeling (F), Judging (J) or Perceiving (P),and within each catagory we are either Introverted (I) or Extroverted (E).

The different combinations possible that all fall into are:
ESFP ESTP ISTJ ISFJ ENFP ENTP INFJ INTJ
ESTJ ENTJ ISTP INTP ESFJ ENFJ INFP ISFP

Understanding your own personality type is a real an d effective tool in self discovery, and can further help us understand those around us. To learn more about personality typing, and even take the Briggs-Meyers personality test visit www.personalitypage.com .

Personally, I am an INFJ...

IQ TEST

Your IQ Test
YOUR RESULTS =155. Genius Outstanding! Your score on the IQ test suggests you are well in the Genius intelligence range. Your score has placed you at the highest measurable levels of intellectual prowess. Ironically, intelligence research has found an unexpected tendency among the exceptionally intelligent to under-achieve, at least as far as the traditional academic and professional indicators are concerned. The smartest people seem to wind up living relatively modest and ordinary lives. Why? It may be that when you have an over-abundance of natural intelligence the ordinary elements of life can seem far beneath you as to be boring. Alternatively, this glut of intelligence can lead to mental indolence and “coasting” on one's natural abilities. Few geniuses really achieve the heights of success and achievement that we would expect the powers of genius to bring them. So, while you have achieved magnificently on this IQ test, take only so much comfort from your lofty score. Remember, it is far better to be actively striving toward success than to lie recumbently expecting it. THE MEANING OF I.Q.: I.Q. or intelligence quotient is a general assessment of your ability to think and reason. Your I.Q. score is actually an indication of how you compare in this ability with the majority of people in your age group. A rating of 100, for example, means that, as compared to the majority of other people in your age group, you have a normal rate of intelligence: Most psychologists consider those falling in the range of 95-105 as having a normal or average I.Q. There are many abilities which are not measured by I.Q. testing. For example, I.Q. does not measure musical talent, manual dexterity, or a variety of other abilities. However, I.Q. testing does give you an important indication of your ability to think, reason and solve problems. This is critical to your success in life. An individual’s overall intelligence is a difficult thing to measure in any absolute fashion. Human intelligence may be said to consist of literally hundreds of different and distinct mental abilities. And only a few of these may be measured through formal testing. Creators of IQ tests have attempted to isolate and measure only a handful of mental abilities which serve as likely predictors of achievement – namely logical reasoning, math skills, general knowledge, the ability to classify things, the ability to see analogies, and the ability to recognize patterns. Your score on this IQ test by no means reflects a complete picture of your intelligence. It does not take into consideration verbal, social or emotional intelligence, to name just a few. Nor does it measure all your intellectual potential. No IQ test can do that. FAMOUS IQ'S Leonardo da Vinci Artist, Inventor 220 Blaise Pascal, Mathematician, Philosopher 195 Isaac Newton, Mathematician 190 Voltaire, Writer 189 Gary Kasparov, Chess Grandmaster 185 Galileo Galilei, Astronomer, Physicist 183 Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, Composer 165 Charles Darwin, Naturalist, Writer 165 Albert Einstein, Physicist 160 Bill Gates, Founder of Microsoft 160 Ben Franklin, Writer, Scientist, Politician 160 DALE "BUD" BRAUER 155 Abraham Lincoln,U.S. President 150 Napoleon Bonaparte, Emperor 145 Hillary Clinton, Senator of New York 140 Madonna, Singer, Actress 140

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Alone vs Lonely...

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