Wednesday, January 23, 2013

The Consequences of Individualism VS Collectivism

As I was reading this morning I came across this statement from William F. Buckley Jr. (found in his book "God & Man at Yale"). He said: "I myself believe that the duel between Christianity and atheism is the most important in the world. I further believe that the struggle between individualism and collectivism is the same struggle reproduced on another level" (italics mine). Think about that a minute- if Buckley is correct- and I tend to heartily agree with him- then we can make a direct correlation between the advancement of atheistic belief and the advance of socialistic thought and agendas in our society today. (Collectivism is the basis for socialism).

Conversely, the advancement of Christianity promotes individualism. That is the basis for our free enterprise system, or capitalism. So why are so many people so resistant to indiviualism today? I believe that answer accountability- not to man but to God. To accept the premise that there is a God, and a God who is active in this creation- to say He loves and cares for us- is to have to accept responsibility or accountability to that God for our actions, our lives. If we accept the premise of God we realize we have a moral responsibility in the way we conduct our lives. Immorality becomes wrong, becomes sin. Things like "sex week"- first started on Yale's campus but now spread across major campuses today- are practices in immorality. Adultery, pornography, spousal/child abuse, domestic violence, homosexuality, et al- all cry out for moral resposibility. And yet our society today is more likely to accept the sin than the accountability. Why?

 Because we've turned from God. The mindset is now "No God, no guilt". Many of us have turned from God to try and assauge our consciences, to try and allieviate our guilt. The guilt remains, mind you- it's just buried- stuffed down by our rebellious nature. But one day it will again surface and we will be forced to deal with it again. In the Bible there's the story of David, king of Israel, and his affair with Bathsheba. We read his words in the Psalms, as he dealt with the guilt. He says that as he kept silent (pushed down and buried the adultery, et al.) his spirit withered like in the summer heat but when he confessed his sin (ie. accepted the responsibility of his actions) his burden was lifted and God removed the guilt of his sin. You see, our accountability doesn't "allow" God to forgive our sins- indeed, our sins are already forgiven, for Jesus paid that price on the cross- but it does allow him to relieve the guilt of our sins. He clears our conscience of guilt and we are freed to live and grow in a moral and responsible manner. We accept responsibility and grow as indiviuals, when we deny or reject responsibility we seek solace in groups... Individualism vs collectivism, capitalism vs socialism- the choices are ours, but it boils down to God vs atheism. In what direction do we want to lead our country for our children, our grandchildren?
Food for thought...

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Bridging the Congressional Aisle...

A friend stopped in today and asked for my thoughts on the Obama Inaugural speech. My thoughts were initially much the same as those of many of the GOP leadership- long on "lofty", short on sspecifics, and completely devoid of any attempt to reach out to the "Republicans", those Obama clearly portrays as his political "enemies". As I reflected on it I was asked how I would attempt to solve this grid-lock problem, if I were president.

My response was simply this- it has to be more than lip service. If I were president my first task would be to tell my vice-president that, as president of the Senate, it is now his job to integrate both parties together. I would suggest that there is no more "Democratic" side, or "Republican" side of the aisle. Instead seat senators alphabetically by state. You might sit next to a republican, you might sit next to a democrat, but bottom line is the parties would be dispersed among each other.

I would go to the Speaker of the House and suggest a similar plan for the House. Once everyone was intermixed I would address both houses and say: "It is time to forget whether you are a Republican or a Democrat for today we are all here elected as Americans. We have issues that face our nation that can only be resolved by working together. So vote your heart, not your party, and we can achieve great things together. We can find solutions for our problems, through negotiation and compromise, if we only determine to work together. So leave party affliation on the campaign trail, or at least at the door, and let's step forward together and show those who elected us that their votes were not cast in vain!"

I dare say, it would at least show some in Congress that the spirit is willing- something this President can never hope to achieve, for he has demegoged his political "enemies", ridiculed them, blamed them, and thrown them under the bus too mant times to ever hope to achieve or show (on his part) a spirit of willingness and compromise. It is the difference between serving our country humbly, accepting the challenge to conquer the enormous task at hand in the best interests of our country, and "serving" his term as an entitled and arogant dictator, (repeatedly snubbing his nose at the Constitution), that he's shown himself to be. Thank God for term limits...

Food for thought...

Friday, January 18, 2013

Taxable Dependents...


I received this little ditty from a friend, and, as tax season is upon us I thought it very apprapo... I think it would be a hoot if all us hard-working, gainfully-employed, tax-paying citizens used this in our "Dependents" list- if nothing more than to mess with the IRS...
 
I just received my tax return for 2011 back from the IRS. It puzzles me!!! 
They are questioning how many dependents I claimed. 
I guess it was because of my response to the question: "List all dependents?"
I replied 12 million illegal immigrants; 3 million crack heads; 
42 million unemployed people on food stamps, 
2 million people in over 243 prisons; Half of Mexico; 
And 535 persons in the U.S. House and Senate."
Evidently, this was NOT an acceptable answer. 
I KEEP ASKING MYSELF, WHO THE HELL DID I MISS?
 
To answer the question of who he missed, he didn't list the President and the nine Supreme Court justices...

Tuesday, January 08, 2013

Relational Currency...

Though I am far from an expert on relationships (I suppose I learn most through my failed ones!) I have pondered much on what makes them go, and makes them grow. I've come to realize there are a number of ways we "pay" to keep our relationships healthy. For example, keeping the romance alive, or giving gifts, doing things, listening- many big and little things to keep it healthy. But underlying all these things is one key thing that is the glue, the main currency in our relational economy. And what is that one thing? Time- or more specifically, Our Time.

While the total amount of time each of us have on this rock differs, each day here we find ourselves with the same number of hours at our disposal. Some of us cram as much "doing" in our hours as we can, often ending our day slumped on the couch catching the news or a show before retiring to bed, just to repeat the cycle tomorrow. As a matter of fact, our society pushes us to do more and more- but at what cost to our relationships?

Time is the greatest measure of our commitment. Not just time, but quality time. Time we make specifically for another, despite our hectic schedules. It doesn't matter, in the long run, what gifts we give, what words we say, what acts we do, if we just aren't "there" for another. Our time is our most precious commodity, and how we share it with another shows the importance of that relationship. And you better believe, it doesn't matter to another how busy we are if we're in a relationship. What matters (to them) is our making time for them despite our schedule. For time, our time, is our currency, and how we spend it shows others just what is important to us...

Food for thought...

Tuesday, January 01, 2013

TV- Truth or Fallacy?

So I begin this new year on a sad note... I was watching TV last night and a commercial came on promoting "ChristianMingle.com", a Christian dating site. Being a Christian man I listened and was surprised to hear that the partner that God wants for me is found on Cheistian Mingle. This is sad, because currently I thought I was quite happy in the relationship I am in, but if I am to believe this ad then clearly my relationship is not the one God wants for me... Or, Christian Mingle is taking a very liberal licence with the truth. Hmmm...
So, do I believe television, or more specifically, the "Christian" dating organization that says that the partner God has for me is found on their website, which in turn means I must break off the relationship I currently find myself in, one which brings me joy and contentment, or do I believe that my relationship is good and God can ordain it despite the fact that it wasn't birthed through Christian Mingle? If I opt for the latter then I must conclude that TV allows obvious mistruths to permeate the airwaves, which, by extention, calls into question the truth and validity of virtually every "political" report I hear. Personally, I'm happy where I'm at, and I wish Washington would learn how to be forthright and truthful to the people who put them there...
Food for thought...

Resolutions- Think Carefully!

Happy New Year to all!
But before you all start making New Year resolutions consider them carefully. Personally, I've resolved not to make any more resolutions...
For those of you who resolve to lose weight this new year consider this: I have this theory- there's only so much weight in the world and when one person loses weight another person ends up gaining it... I figured this out because so many of my friends lost weight this year and I just kept packing it on. So to all you dieters I plead with you, I beg you, give me a break! I can't afford to put on any more weight! Perhaps, in the spirit of fairness, some of you will resolve to put on weight so I might lose a bit... Either that or I'll be forced to relocate to a country that needs some fattening up... So Happy New Year, and eat hearty all this 2013!

Food for thought...

Sunday, December 30, 2012

Obama- Arrogant or just Clueless?

I watched the exclusive Obama interview with David Gregory on Meet The Press this morning, and then the subsequent round table discussion by the normally "liberal" side of the media... I was amazed to listen to our president, who campaigned five years ago on change, on bringing our "broken" country back together, once again this morning throw Republicans under the bus. He said that he was a man of compromise, that the Democrats were willing to compromise, but Republicans just can't say yes to compromise- despite his willingness to "go more than half way". As a fiscal conservative, and an independent voter, who votes for both Democrats and Republicans, I say this to you Mr. President- You have been the most divisive, polarizing president that I have ever experienced in my 50+ years. You have continually blamed your failure to lead on "Republicans", you have repeatedly and publicly ridiculed and demagogue them, either because you are too clueless in your ability to understand how to work with people, or because you are so arrogant that you feel you don't have too. What a way to "bring people together". And believe it or not, my liberal media friends agree!
Personally I don't believe you are clueless. I believe you are one of the most arrogant, deceptive, self-centered people I've ever seen, and, as a voter and tax-payer you technically work for me. Had I the power I would fire you, and put someone in your place that really understands negotiation, who doesn't allow his ego to get in his way, and perhaps some of this Washington gridlock would dissipate. But I don't have that power, nor are there enough like me to do it. You see, I'm a small business owner, who, during your administration has taken a 75% paycut in order to keep my key employees on, who believes our country will one day rebound despite your attempts to spend us into bankruptcy. As a business owner I understand the principle that you can only spend what you bring in, I understand how important it is to balance a budget- do you know what a budget is Mr President? It's that Constitutional thing you've ignored passing during your entire administration. Instead, you continue, in your arrogance, to spend like there's no accounting, no tomorrow to worry about. Then you go on TV and tell all those people you've given handouts to just how wonderful a job you're doing "protecting" them.
Tell me Mr. President, where does all the money come from that you want to spend on all these handouts? Let me tell you- it comes out of the pockets of the hard-working minority of Americans like me, who have to support not just myself, but also almost half the country you've got on one kind of" entitlement" or another. You talk about the everybody needs to sacrifice, the rich need to pay a little more, and you talk the talk but don't walk the walk. You just came back from a "family vacation" in Hawaii. When I go on vacation I pay for it. Your little family vacation cost the taxpayers over four million dollars. Was it really worth that kind of money for you and your family to go on yet another vacation at my expense? You have taken more vacations than any other preceeding president! You and your family spend taxpayer money like you're entitled to it! And when criticised, throw out the race card. No one wants to be considered a racist, but here's a newsflash- you and Michelle are clearly two of the most public racists ever!
No Mr. President, you clearly aren't getting the job done. You are lining the pockets of your friends and allies, you are mortgaging my children and grandchildren's future with your reckless fiscal policies, and you certainly aren't helping small businessmen like me. Perhap if you had ever actually had a private sector job you might understand my frustrations with you, but all you've ever done is "worked" in the government- leeching off taxpayers to gain your wealth and prosperity. Perhaps we need a Constitutional amendment that makes it a requirement for one to actually have held a job outside of government before they can run for political office. Either you would be disqualified or you'd have to forge another document...
Food for thought...

Monday, December 17, 2012

Merry Christmas!

 
I decided that today, in the spirit of the season, to share some little ditties that have been passed on to me so that others might enjoy them to. So enjoy, and if I don't blog before it arrives, I wish you all a "Merry Christmas!" and a Happy New Year. Remember the reason for the season...

Now, you really need to try this way of bathing your cat...



 Here's a couple of cute ones that seem to capture my views on exercise, especially as I grow older...




 Isn't it interesting how we look to God in times of trouble, but don't really want Him in our lives the rest of the time? I often wonder how the "rights of beliefs" of a small minority (ie. atheists) can so negatively impact the rights of the majority... I prefer my God in my schools, workplace, government...
 

If "laughter is the best medicine" as my generation grew up believing (thanks Reader's Digest!) then why are we so hesitant to taake our medicine? I think we need to find our laughter again!
Growing old has its benefits! People seem to excuse us old people more readily for our eratic behavior! Makes me just want to act out all the more!


Too cute!
And there's always some type of scam going today isn't there? The internet is full of them, and, for just $19.95 I'll be happy to send you a complete list to watch out for! (Sorry- couldn't resist that!)
 
 
Thanks to all who read and peruse my bits of wit and occassional wisdom. I hope you enjoy reading as much as I do in sharing!
 

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Connections...

I thought I'd lost this post, but somehow it mysteriuosly returned in my drafts- so here it is!

I was sitting on my couch this past week, watching another exciting episode of Big Bang Theory, and was suddenly overcome with the desire to communicate to my grown children that I loved them. Now they know that already, but all being grown and out on their own, making their own homes and families, it's easy to forget... So I called my son out in Nebraska, and got his voice mail, so I left him a message that I wasn't calling for any particular reason, just wanted to tell him I loved him. Then I called my second son and, of course, got voice mail, aand left him the same message. Knowing my daughter I knew she's notoriously bad at listening to her messages so, being the tech savvy dad that I am, I texted her. I just reminded her how extrordinary she was and that I loved and missed her.

I didn't hear anything for a while, then got a text from my daughter that said she really needed that. she was in the midst of an especially tough week and was really feeling overwhelmed, then my text came and she just went into her office and cried. The next day my second son called and updated me on things and told me he loved me. I never did hear from my son in Nebraska, but I know how busy he is, and I know he loves me... All this made me realize how important staying connected is, how important just a moment of our time and attentions could be to one we love. As families spead farther and farther apart it becomes even more imperative to make those small efforts to stay connected.

It doesn't take much to stay connected. The toughest part is being the instigator, or remembering to act. But the fruits of that action, when fruit is realized, can be so sweet, so fulfilling to the soul.
Instigate. Reach out. Connect. Your relationships will thank you...

Food for thought...

Sunday, December 09, 2012

Communication in Commitment

I wrote what I considered a wonderful blog a bit over a week ago, and being so tech-savvy, I managed to delete it somehow, despite the fact that it is supposed to automatically save itself as I go along. I guess if there's a way to mess it up I'll find it...
The gist of the blog was the importance of remaining committed in our relationships. By that I mean we shouldn't take them for granted. All too often we tend to do just that, forgetting to do the little things, to take initiative to keep our relationships special. We often forget to tell those who are precious to us just how precious they are, or what makes them so special. We somehow expect them to know how wonderful they are without us telling them. And yet, just taking the initiative to drop them a note, or text, or a quick call could make all the difference to them. A couple of weeks ago I texted my daughter a reminder of how incredible she is and that I loved and missed her. A while later I got a response- "You are wonderful.I needed to hear that today. I'm so discouraged and I feel like today has been a day from hell... Your text made me cry in my office..." Sixty seconds or less to send a brief message that completely lifted a day. Isn't it worth our effort?
Communication is so critical in healthy relationships. All too often we expect the other half of our relationship to just "know" what we think or feel. But none of us are mind readers and we need to learn to take initiative to share what is important to us with those who are important to us. So why don't we? Because sharing can make us feel vulnerable. We tend to share with others with the expectation of reciprical sharing. When it doesn't happen we feel vulnerable and withdraw, at least mentally and emotionally. We begin to refuse to put ourselves out there until we get something first. And communication breaks down. And commitment is threatened.
When we learn to overcome the onus of going first, of taking the chance, communication stands the best chance of flourishing, of growing. And our relationships get healthier. Learn to share what is important with those who are important in our lives. Food for thought...

Wednesday, November 07, 2012

Post Election Rant...

It's a sad day today, for the private sector in our American economy. By the narrowest of margins  Obama was re-elected to a second term in the presidency. The Senate remains under the control of the Democrats, the House under the control of the Republicans. It is exactly the same dynamic we had prior to the election- and look how well that worked. Now the private sector is faced with the most divisive, polarizing racist president we've ever had, one who is determined to raise taxes on the private sector businesses- for that is the only place he can get more revenue from.

Don't believe the lies about making the top several percent "pay their share", for that's just all smoke and mirrors. If we went back to the Clinton rates for those top people the additional income is estimated to be able to run the government an additional eight days... Not the win-fall the president tried to lead the country to believe. So why raise those rates? Because that indiviual rate tranfers over to the business income tax rate and that means a huge tax increase for private small businesses. One estimate said that 97% of all small businesses will be adversely affected... Again, certainly not the champion of small business he (Obama) tried to present himself as being...

Small business drives job growth. Squeezing small business, as this administration is doing, is a job killer. Is it no wonder this has been a jobless recovery? I'm tired of hearing about how many jobs are being "created". The reality is it takes an additional 125,000 jobs per month just to keep up with the population growth. I wish the general population would take the time and effort to educate themselves- we might be able to dig ourselves out of this mess with proper knowledgeable leadership. Instead, almost half the country is getting government haandouts or assisstance of one kind or another and they won't vote for change if it means it might hinder that.

One woman interviewed said Obama was her hero, and when asked why she said, "Because I get Obama money". Obama money? Lady, that money doesn't come from Obama- it comes right out of the wallets of every hard-working  American who pays their taxes... Obama just delegates it to those who's vote he can buy... When more than half the country is on government assistance of one kind or another then each working person is saddled with supporting two peeople. Want to fix the system in a hurry? If you don't pay taxes you don't get to vote. How will you be elected then Mr President?

Now I have to go. I have an "Obama Drove Me Out of Business" sale to plan...
Food for thought...

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Remedial Math...

So I'm watching Jay Leno and the Tonight Show last night and President Obama was on. Because I was angry with myself I decided to punish myself by making me watch. At one point Leno asked the Prez questions pulled from Facebook and the audience. One question was, "When you help your daughters with their homework what subject gives you the most trouble?" Obama's answer was, "Math. When my daughter's were younger I had no problem. I was good up to about 7th grade. Now my oldest daughter is a freshman in high school and quite frankly, I'm lost".
Wow. Now perhaps it's just me, but when I keep hearing him say "The math just doesn't work" when criticisng Romney's economic plan perhaps it's because he has a remedial 7th grade math education.

 Yesterday Donald Trump offered $5 million to the charity of Obama's choice if he would release his passport and college transcripts. Of course Obama declined, for usually when someone works so hard to hide something there's usually something to hide. But now I wonder, did Obama not take him up on it because he's so poor in math and would have to ask for help counting the money?

I think even a remedial 7th grade math education should be able to grasp the concept of expanding the base to raise revenues.  Perhaps Mitt Romney needs to give him a visual aide:
Obama- 45% of 1,000,000 = $450,000 in tax revenue.
Expand the base by lowering taxes and giving business an incentive to invest and spend-
Romney- 20% of 10,000,000 = $2,000,000.

Mr President, based on an economic model where the base is expanded you would receive over 4x the revenue with less than half the tax rate. It's called Economic Growth.
Food for thought...

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Spam Responses...

I've decided to answer some of this repeating spam mail that I get via my blog...

Dear Cheap Auto Insurance,
Thank you for your concern over the possibility of my over-paying for my auto insurance. Your concern is touching. I know I don't pay the absolute cheapest for my insurance, but I like the service of both my provider and my agent. I think I'm going to stay put. Regards.

Dear Credit Score Time;
I do agree that 550 is a low credit score, and I appreciate your concern that mine might have changed. Rest assured, I do pay attention to my credit score and it hasn't drop below 800 in years. And an FYI, that's a GREAT credit score. Feel free to focus your attentions on someone who needs it.

Dear Amy,
Thank you for sending me a link to your "pics". I think I'd better pass though, for my girlfriend might be upset if I were to peruse them. And for the record, I have no clue who you are or why you would want to degrade yourself by sending your pics to a stranger. Would you like me to send you some links that offer help for people with moral issues and no self esteem? Let me know...

Dear Ms. Carman L. LaPointe,
I am so sorry to hear about your devestating terminal desease. I'm touched that you would trust me with distributing your wealth while allowing me such a generous percentage. However, I'm not sure my banker is quite so trusting and recommends that you just add me to your banking accounts and send me your personal information so that I can access your accounts and distribute your wealth per your desires. I await your personal information...

Dear Blue Sky Auto Loans,
Thanks for the offer of a car loan for less than 3% despite the possibility of me having bad credit. Good news for you- my credit is excellent. Bad news for you- I don't need a car loan from you because my credit is excellent. Perhaps if my credit goes in the toilet I'll give you a shout...

Dear Match.com, Christian Singles, and SpeedDate Singles,
I really appreciate your interest in me as a single guy in my area. Although your interest is very flattering if I were to take you up on your offer it could create a real problem for my relationship with the wonderful woman I am currently seeing. Perhaps if I screw up my life again and lose this one I'll need your services, but for now I have to take a pass...

Dear Bed Bugs,
Thanks for your infestation warning. Here's a suggestion- clean your homes better! Mine is fine.

Dear Natasha,
I'm glad you got your Russian Brides webcam up and going, and are willing to share it with me, but I am not interested in a Russian Bride. Quite honestly, I remember those pictures of Russian women from the 50's Olympics and am frankly scared to death of Russian women. Go 'Roids!

Thanks to all who didn't get a mention, though you continue to fill my spam folder with your ceaseless offers... Perhaps one day I will have a brain fart and actually click on your link, and then, who knows?
Food for thought...

Friday, October 19, 2012

Listen Your Way to a Better Relationship...

I was watching a few minutes of "Two and a Half Men" last night, as I was surfing between ballgames, and noticed that the guest star, a young girl whose name I don't recall, talked incessently. No one could get a word in edgewise when she was talking. This morning, as I recalled that memory, I was again impacted by the thought that people love to be listened to, yet there are so few people who really know how to listen from their heart...

Listening is an art- the giving of one's full attention to another, taking in theire words, their tone, their body language without some part of our mind formulating responses and wanting to interupt, to interject... Listening without judgement is a lost art. But learning to listen from the heart has dual impact- listening and feeling listened to promotes intimacy and closer relationship. And who today doesn't want better relationships? Begin by becoming a better listener...
Food for thought...

Friday, October 12, 2012

The Company We Keep...

I've heard several people lately talk of problems they've encountered mainly from being in the wrong company. If there's one truth I've learned in life is that stupid rubs off. Hang around with stupid people and stupid will rub off on you. Now, perhaps you think you're stronger than that, smarter than to fall prey to stupid. I have a good friend who deals with people, often people in trouble, in his profession and often has commented, "You just can't fix stupid". My friend, if you dip your toe in the pool of stupid you will get wet. You can't help it.

Just like water flowing between two containers seeks to level out so do relationships seek a level ground. Some people find themselves in relationships where they feel energized, or empowered by the other, striving to do better, to become better. On the other side of that relationship that person must "dumb down" to more cohesively bond or communicate with the other. Dumbing down can lead to stupid actions...

Now I'm not saying that we should not be in relationship with others mentally / socially / emotionally less fortunate than ourselves, I'm just saying that all our relationships should not fall into that category. We need to be in relationships that also inspire us, as well as relationships with others who are in a similar place as us, for those can also challenge us. We need to be balanced...
Food for thought...

Friday, September 28, 2012

It's been a while since I blogged, and that's simply because I didn't have anything really relevant to say. "Better to say nothing and be thought a fool than speak up and remove all doubt", as the saying goes, so I remained silent. Today though, I am on my political soapbox.

A couple days ago the June sales reports came out for GM- the last reports before the November elections. Sales were up 16% for the month of June, and the best month since 2008. Why am I citing this? Because, if you'll remember, our government, our president, bailed out GM with our taxpayer dollars. So this is good news, right? Not really. You see, 79% of GM fleet sales in June was to the US government. So we taxpayers  buy 500 million plus shares of GM stock to "save" them from bankruptcy, then we buy almost 80% of theeir fleet sales to inflate the numbers to make Obama look good. So what did wwe actually save?

To get out "investment" out of the shares we bought we need to sell them for about $53/share. The post-bankrupt shares debuted at $33/share, and it is currently selling at just over $20/share. Doing the math, we stand to lose over $15 billion taxpayer dollars. So what did we get for our money? Obama bought all the UAW workers votes, and all those union votes are enormous. He probably bought the state of Ohio with taxpayer money... But it's just one of many shady, seedy dealings he's had since gaining office.

Had GM gone into bankruptcy they would have been forced to restructure, to become financially viable, or to sell. Had we not bailed them out they would have become an asset to our economy instead of the billions of dollars of dead weight they currently are. Obama and unions have forced on us a "status quo" that costs us billions- this from the man who says the status quo isn't working. I guess it works okay for him...

This campaign I've heard repeatedly from Obama that he's "for all Americans". That's the biggest lie and the biggest line of BS yet. Obama has been the most divisive president this country has ever experienced. Listening to his retoric about "we" and "they" when blaming all his failures on Republicans, Congress, George Bush, his "inherited" economy, Wall Street, big business... The list goes on and on...

As an independent, but fiscally conservative voter, I pray that Obama is defeated in November. I aam afraid my small business can't afford another four years of his policies...

Monday, August 20, 2012

Relationally challenged...


I've never been shy about admitting my being relationally challenged, but it's taken some time for me to figure out why there are times I just prefer to be alone than in a relationship. I've been divorced some time now and while single I have participated in several relationships, each in turn running its course. I finally figured out that which I dislike most about relationships: I hate the feeling I get when I disappoint. It doesn't matter if I've not been "wrong", per se, to cause that rotten feeling, it just matters that I failed to perform in such a way that pleased my mate... It's those times, when I felt I tried, but it wasn't good enough, that I found little pleasure in my relationship... It's those times that I felt it better to be alone...

From time to time I've shared my feelings on relationships, on occassion my opinion has been sought out by those dealing with difficulties of one kind or another, but this time, as I seek answers, who will answer me? Why does feeling that I've disappointed make me feel like a failure? Even those times I've tried, but still disappointed, when my best efforts were not enough and met with disappointment, I feel terrible. Why? Shouldn't the effort to please be acknowledged, isn't that attitude of disappointment a selfish reaction from my mate?

Perhaps for some only the end product is all that matters, the destination more important than the journey. Perhaps that is a difference, for I've found that life is in the journey...

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Push a rope...

We all want what we want from others, but getting what we want sometimes seems so difficult. Why? Because it's like trying to push a rope. The rope doesn't go anywhere, it constantly veers off course, and ultimately its a mess. You just can't push a rope. Nor will you fare any better trying to push your agenda on other people.

However, if we take time to ask others about themselves, learn from them their interests, their desires, we can "pull" them from great distances to where you want o be. Just as a pulled rope comes to the source of the pull straight and true so will others come with whom we've taken the time to put their interests ahead of our own. The influence one creates through pulling can be vast, and limitless.

It's all about learning to be more selfless in our dealings with others. Putting them first often results in our own desires being met. Just the opposite of what most people think or do... Food for thought.