Some random thoughts ...One of those things I pondered yesterday, during a time of solitude out on the lake, was what I considered to be the greatest builder of relationships, and then the greatest destroyer of relationships as well. The two are polar opposites, dreaded enemies- they cannot coexist... I believe truth, with its counterpart trust, is the greatest building block of relationships. With truth you know exactly where you stand, and with truth trust grows. Trust is the adhesive that binds two people together.
The other side of the coin, however, is that malicious, intentional, destroyer of love and life- the lie. The intentional act or words to decieve. Deception- the destroyer of trust, destroyer of love, for love is not enough to sustain a relationship. It must have trust, and trust is only found in truth, never in deception. I think one aspect of unfaithfulness within the context of a relationship is that it is the lie being acted out, the physical incarnation of the mental deception. It is usually the death knell of a relationship...
So why is truth so difficult for us? Why is doing or being what is ultimately good so hard to grasp? Why is the concept of the "little white lie" accepted so universally as okay? Why do we feel the need to "twist" the truth, or play reckless with it, as some are fond of saying? Why is it easier to lie than to be honest? It comes down to our very nature, flawed and sinful, though we don't want to recognize ourselves as such, so the first lie is to ourselves, that we are not that way... And every lie gets easier after that...
I think often lying is recognized as wrong, but is the action of choice because we justify it in our minds by thinking that to tell the truth could ultimately hurt another, so we lie for their benefit. I propose that we offer an answer that simply says, for whatever reason I choose not to make my opinion known, or choose not to commit myself at this time. Or say nothing! If we learn to respect the rights and opinions of others and they respect ours the "need" for lying is gone...
I think this deserves some more thought...
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