Relationship Killers #3: Anger...

Anger is not wrong. Everyone gets angry at something or someone, sooner or later. It is an often misunderstood emotion, for it is not a bad in itself. Unbridaled anger however, uncontroled anger, is a bad thing and can destroy a relationship. When we allow our anger to run unbridled we say things, and do things that can't be undone. Yes, we can forgive anger, but we really don't forget the intentional hurtful things said  or done out of anger. As I've written in the past, once a word is said that's when it begins to live.

 Uncontrolled anger will drive a couple further apart, and will make reconcilliation that much more difficult. If our desire is to be together, to live in a harmonious relationship then uncontroled anger is our enemy. So what's the solution? Anger management. Learn to control your temper and you won't regret your words or actions- even if you're angry. Sometimes it means walking away for a while, to regain control. Sometimes it means choosing not to respond to hurtful things said while emotions are running high. And yet, when one partner can't control their anger, their tongue, they are emotionally abusive, and no one deserves to be abused. The end of the relationship should be near when anger controls a person, for their right to express anger inappropriately ends where your nose begins. Food for thought...